When the abyss looks back: Polyamory and emptiness


I first read Jean-Paul Sartre when I was about 15 or 16.  And, being an angst-ridden teenager, much of his writing resonated with me.  For many years after first reading it, Nausea was a specific novel which stuck with me.  Here, for example, is a scene about half way through the book.  Here, the narrator (it takes … Continue reading When the abyss looks back: Polyamory and emptiness

May


Edit: I forgot to mention that May is Borderline Personality disorder awareness month.  As a result of this, along with the reading I’m doing about BPD, I may be writing more about the issue this month than usual.   — The Spring and Summer are easily my favorite times of year.  Earlier this year, as … Continue reading May

Ayn Rand’s The Virtue of Selfishness: An Introductory Critique


50 years ago Ayn Rand, a novelist and philosopher, wrote a book entitled The Virtue of Selfishness.  I read this book many years ago, in addition to The Romantic Manifesto, Atlas Shrugged, and Anthem.  I actually enjoyed some aspects of her writing, especially when it came to her novels.  But I never was able to … Continue reading Ayn Rand’s The Virtue of Selfishness: An Introductory Critique

Anger, hurt, and (unintentional?) bullying


About four years ago, when my therapist first suggested Borderline Personality Disorder as a description of the emotional volatility I’ve experienced throughout my life, he also said something that has stuck with me ever since. I had been describing how angry I was, talking about what I thought the causes were, what it felt like, … Continue reading Anger, hurt, and (unintentional?) bullying

The turbulant seas between Philotes and Eros


Because I am poly polyamorous, having friends of the gender I tend to be attracted to can often be an adventure of uncertainty and transitions.  Some of them I am attracted to, some I am not, and sometimes that attraction leads to something.  Many times it does not.  But when it does, the transition can … Continue reading The turbulant seas between Philotes and Eros

Relationship Anarchy and a Culture of Consent


Editorial Note: This post was written by Wes Fenza, long before the falling out of our previous quint household and the subsequent illumination of his abusive behavior, sexual assault of several women, and removal from the Polyamory Leadership Network and banning from at least one conference. I have left Wes’ posts  here because I don’t … Continue reading Relationship Anarchy and a Culture of Consent