In reading about borderline personality disorder, talking about my symptoms and finding solutions to the problems they cause, and in evaluating the mistakes I have made both recently and in the more distant past in terms of my relationships, I have come to worry about a few things that pertain to being polyamorous. Over the … Continue reading Borderline Personality Disorder and Polyamory: An overview
In reading about Borderline Personality Disorder recently, I’m noticing a fair amount of conversation about a sort of lament for the loss of aspects of culture which have never really meant anything to me, personally. The shifts in social structure, changes in the definitions and practices of family, and the contradictions of life, some apparently … Continue reading Thoughts from the Borderline: social fragmentation
This is not a real post. This is more of an overture to future posts about the intersection of being polyamorous and having Borderline Personality Disorder. Ginny pointed out to me today that I have a fair amount of experience being polyamorous, and while I was diagnosed about 4 years ago, all of my adult … Continue reading Intersectionality: Polyamory and Borderline Personality Disorder
I don’t talk about everything about myself on this blog. I try to keep it pretty focused on skepticism, polyamory, and religion. But there are certainly more things about me than this. Recently I wrote about my struggling with Borderline Personality Disorder, and the post went up today at this new blog which I have … Continue reading Borderline
Dear polyamory community, Especially Polydelphia, who booted me almost a year ago for a mix of (admittedly) good and corrupt reasons. And who made no attempt at restorative justice, despite your paying lip service to this very powerful and important concept. OK, so right off the bat for the sake of clarity, I’m not becoming … Continue reading Leaving the Poly Republic(ans): an open letter to the poly community
The blog has been quiet for a while. There are reasons for that, which are not relevant to the world, but I wanted to say a few words relevant to my own personal life. Previously, I have written about Borderline Personality Disorder. It was a time when I was doing a lot of reading, thinking, and … Continue reading Forging an iron(ic) self: putting the border behind me
Addendum (November 2014): Since I have written this, I have discovered many new facts and perspectives about Wes Fenza. I now believe him to be possibly sociopathic/psychopathic and potentially dangerous to anyone around him. He has sexually assaulted people, lied on many accounts, and continues, to this day, to attempt to control the narratives around … Continue reading Our account of the Fenzorselli-McBrownigal Fallout
Proposition: Mental health and cognitive errors are the foundation upon which we struggle with interactions with groups, individuals, and ourselves. Whether we are diagnoseable in a mental health context or not and whether our cognitive biases are significantly problematic or not, how these types of factors interact with each other will influence how we understand ourselves … Continue reading Checking Ourselves: Mental Health, Cognitive Bias, and Rifts
Overwhelming emotion has been a story of much of my life. From a bad temper as a child to the likelihood of anxiety and traumatic memories suddenly paralyzing me or causing dramatic behavior today, it is a thing I deal with most days. I can be calm one moment and in a minute I can … Continue reading Being optimistic about radical mood shifts
I have never had an MRI or any other brain-imaging done to verify this, but I have reason to suspect that I may have a smaller hippocampus and possibly a reduced amygdala. Why would I suspect such a thing? Well, people who have symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder tend to have these brain regions of … Continue reading Impulsiveness: The invisible villain within
Skepticism, Properly Applied 