I follow a few blogs about polyamory. I specifically like polytical.org, a group of poly people in the UK who often have many good things to say.
Today a post went up that deals with what Lola O, the author, thinks of as some contradictions in the polyamory community. But, primarily the post is about the tension between the goal (or what might often be an expectation) of becoming a non-jealous super-partner in order to be poly and the reality of human emotion, struggles with said emotions, and the stubbornness of those twice-mentioned emotions in not simply disappearing at will.
In any case, the post there is long enough without my predilection to ramble on (and on, and on) adding to your reading. So without further ado I will supply you woth the link: